Good morning and welcome to October at The Promise!
Today’s couple have beaten my hubby and I hands down in the amount of years they’ve spent together before tying the knot! Laura and Des have spent 23 years as a couple and ‘at last’ they’ve said their vows. I’m delighted to be sharing their wedding today which takes us from Derry into Donegal with beautiful documentary style photography by Patrick Duddy.
Couple: Laura + Des Crumlish
“We met many moons ago on the 3rd March 1996 in the Drift Inn Bar in Buncrana. I had a wee thought that Des was nice but didn’t think too much about it after that. Two weeks later on St Patrick’s Day Des ‘came looking for me’ and we exchanged phone numbers. He rang me the next day to ask me out on a date….and that’s where our VERY long journey began!”
“Des proposed to me at Sunday dinner in my mum’s house, surrounded by ALL my family including our two children. It couldn’t have been any more perfect.
Lots of people actually thought it was a joke at first because it had taken us so long and Des would be a bit of a joker at the best of times.
The day he proposed was one of the best days of my life – I loved seeing how excited everyone else was.”
Wedding date: Friday 12th April 2019
Ceremony: St Patrick’s Church, Pennyburn, Derry
Reception: Inishowen Gateway Hotel, Buncrana, Donegal
“Our main focus for the wedding was to have a day to celebrate our journey to where we were now. We have been through plenty of ups and downs and we wanted to celebrate the fact that we had got here….at last!
We wanted to share the day with all our family and friends. It was really all about family and love and fun, all the things that are important to us. We couldn’t ignore the fact that we had been ‘dating’ for over 23 years, so there was an emphasis on the ‘At Last’ element. The Inishowen Gateway was special to us as it was where we spent so much of our time ‘courting’; plus it’s right next door to the place we met all those years ago – The Drift Inn.
We have a boat at Fahan Marina, close to the hotel, and we also do most of our boating on Lough Swilly – which the hotels main reception room overlooks. So choosing it was a no brainer as that part of the world just holds so many special memories for us.”
Our Budget & Suppliers
“We didn’t set a budget as such, although we didn’t want to be extravagant, because that’s just not who we are. At the same time we weren’t going to scrimp on things that were important to us. It is very easy to get caught up in wee silly things that aren’t really important on the day – as long as our guests were happy and looked after, we knew we’d be happy too. It was also very important that we had a record of the day to look back on and so our photographer and videographer were essential to us.
I had to have my Mum and Blooming Marvellous in Buncrana do our flowers. My mum works part time as a florist with Karen Mullan who owns the business. They are both exceptionally talented and have such wonderful ideas. Karen and my mum guided me and suggested different ideas. They took into account our personalities and this showed beautifully in the floral displays and extra bits for the church and reception. With my mum being a florist the flowers were always going to be special to me. I was very lucky to have such a personalised touch on something as important on the day.
My dad sings in a male voice choir ‘The Rosemount Boys Choir’. As a surprise for me he organised for them to come and do a performance for us. It was fantastic, a real show stopper and tear jerker, as my dad choose the songs specifically. It was such a lovely personal touch on the day. From listening to everyone afterwards, they went down a storm.
Of course our two children and Des’s older son were included in everything from the start. Johnathan was a Groomsman, Daisy was our Flower Girl and Harry a Mini-Groomsman. The three of them are our world and hopefully this came across on the day. We also wanted to make sure our guests had a great day’s craic too, and chose The Lee Roy Brown Band as they are renowned for keeping the dance floor filled all night, and they certainly did that – we all partied into the wee hours!”
“For my wedding dress I wanted something simple with a wee bit of detail, but not too much. I always liked the elegant shape of a sheath wedding dress, which is what I went for. Lavender Lilly in Castlederg, Co. Tyrone supplied the dress for me which was by Ida Torez. They were just lovely to deal with.
I let the bridesmaid decide what they wanted to wear. I had an idea I wanted something very relaxed, but I wanted the girls to be comfortable on the day, so ultimately it was their choice. The dresses were ordered online from prettylittlething.com. They were peach in colour with a boho style that wasn’t too fussy. It was pure luck that my sister came across them! They were the very first dresses my bridesmaids tried and were sold on them straight away, I’m lucky to have had very easy going, relaxed bridesmaids!”
“Enjoy every second of the planning and the whole run up to the wedding. It’s all part of it. Try not to get stressed about fine details or big details for that matter – on the grand scale of things, these don’t really matter. Your guests won’t remember what colour your chair bows were, or how many tiers were on your cake, they will remember if they had great craic though.
Try and stop throughout the day and just take stock of what is going on around you. The day goes so very fast and you want to remember as much as you can.
We really believe the day should be a celebration, rather than a show. Don’t worry too much about things that don’t work out, because most likely if they don’t, you will be the only people that know about it!
Take loads of photos and have the time of your life.”
Photographer: Patrick Duddy Photography, Derry.
Venue: Inishowen Gateway Hotel, Buncrana, Donegal.
Dress: Ida Torez.
Bridesmaids dress: Prettylittlething.com.
Grooms wear: Burton Menswear.
Cake: Marks & Spencer.
Flowers: Blooming Marvellous, Buncrana.
Videographer: Hannah Biernat.
Entertainment: The Lee Roy Brown Band.
Hair & Makeup: The Hair Company, Claudy.